It’s 2:45am. I’m locked in a bathroom in my parent’s basement with a screaming three month old attached to my chest. Bouncing up and down, shushing, praying, and cursing all at the same time…
I’ve been at this for so many nights on end, I’ve lost count. As I catch a glimpse of my wasted face in the bathroom mirror, barely visible in the dim LED night light, I wonder,
“What did I do to deserve this?”
“This isn’t what I signed up for.”
“I wish I could just hit the reset button and be done with ALL this bullshit.”
It was the summer after my daughter was born. The four of us – my wife, two kids, and I, were living with my parents. I was commuting four hours a day on a bus to and from Boston, and I was high as a kite the whole time.
My business was stagnant, my dreams were flaccid, and I was doing everything I could to forget ALL of it.
Physically, I was the smallest I had been since middle school – barely recognizable compared to the strapping young stud I was 2 years prior (before kids). My muscles were gone, my confidence was gone, and the only time I felt energized was when I would sneak away and masturbate, but that feeling fled even faster than it came.
How did I get here?
More importantly, how did I get OUT of here?
JUGGLING FITNESS, BUSINESS, AND FAMILY
It actually started several years prior, shortly after my wife and I started dating.
Within a year, I went from being a swingin’ bachelor with too much time on my hands to finding a girl, getting engaged to that girl, and starting a business with that girl.
It didn’t stop there. Fast forward another three years and we had gotten married, closed business number one, started business number two, and had a baby.
The body and the fitness I had worked so hard for in college and early adulthood was being slowly and systematically kicked to the curb! I went from juggling gym sessions, camping weekends, and nights out to juggling client sessions, kid duties, and “quality time.”
I was trying so hard to maintain the routine I had used to get myself in shape as a young single guy, but it wasn’t working. No matter how I sliced it, there just wasn’t room to spend an hour or more in the gym each day, sleep whenever I wanted, do all my meal prep, and play sports regularly with my buddies.
I was getting fat, and I hated it.
I was insecure, and I couldn’t fix it.
All the while, I was running a business getting professionals in shape! I was experiencing first hand what it’s like trying to make everything fit, and I was failing.
Despite my best efforts, nothing seemed to help. I just couldn’t keep up with everything I had taken on AND stay in shape. I felt weak. Rather than address the issue, I chose to avoid it. Work, weed, food, alcohol, I used anything I could get my hands on to hide this feeling of incompetence from myself.
The worst part is, I started blaming my wife and kid for putting me in this position!
I started to fantasize about the good old days, when it was just me, alone on the proverbial ocean, sailing wherever the wind would take me.
I started resenting the very life I had worked for for years.
I was stressed.
I was angry.
I was doubtful I could dig myself out.
I kept all of this to myself, assuming that no one would understand what I was going through. I was afraid that if I told those I loved what was up, they would turn their backs on me and I’d end up in even worse shape.
Then my daughter was born,
we moved into my parent’s house,
and shit REALLY hit the fan.
The entire summer we spent there felt like a stress and drug-induced blur.
We eventually found a house of our own, but I continued to drift. Disconnected and distracted by the stories inside my own head, I maintained the charade as long as I could.
Then, my wake up call came.
It came in the form of a global plandemic.
WINNING THE IMPOSSIBLE GAME
With everything shut down overnight and the coping strategies I had clung to evaporating before my eyes, I had no physical outlet nor separation from the responsibilities I had kept at arm’s length.
Instead, I woke up every day to 24/7 childcare, social isolation, massive uncertainty in my business, and an utter inability to do anything about it.
At least, that is, until I decided to do something about it.
Now, three years later, I can look back on all of this and say it was the greatest gift of my life.
My muscles are back, my confidence is back, and I’m in the best shape of my life.
I’m strong, flexible, and on fire.
My business is flourishing, and I’ve never been more passionate about it.
My family is thriving. My wife and I have two beautiful children with another one on the way.
My marriage is solid. We’ve never been more connected as partners, lovers, and friends.
The road I took to get here has cost me everything, and given me everything.
I’ve spent over 12,000 hours in the last 18 years training myself and my clients, cooking food, going to conferences, workshops, seminars, and masterminds. Working tirelessly to transform my body, my mind, and my heart.
I’ve invested over a million dollars in mentorships, coaches of all kinds, training programs, therapies, business expenses, superfoods, supplements, equipment, and travel. Seeking solutions to this first-world puzzle of how to have it all and be happy.
I’ve worked with over 500 men and women to transform their health and fitness, create their dream life, and win the impossible game.
Through all of this, I have refined a one-of-a-kind system for physical transformation, and it works EVERY TIME.
I believe you don’t have to choose between taking care of yourself and taking care of others, so I help men look and perform their best, both physically and mentally.
If you’re reading this today, I want YOU to have these results too.
I want to share this system with you, this process I went to hell and back to uncover.
I don’t want you to go through what I went through to get it.
I paid this hefty price so you don’t have to.
No doubt you’ve paid a price already. You may be in hell right now.
But whether you choose to stay there or not is entirely up to you.
PurposeFit’s mission is to train ten thousand fathers and professionals to balance business, family, and fitness. We are committed to helping men be strong, lean, confident, and resilient without having to spend hours in the gym or do fun-sucking diets.
Click the link below and let’s get you started losing fat and getting back in killer shape, TODAY
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